The following is from Noel Piper:
Over the years, we have chosen not to include Santa Claus in our Christmas stories and decorations. There are several reasons.
First, fairy tales are fun and we enjoy them, but we don't ask our children to believe them.
Second, we want our children to understand God as fully as they're able at whatever age they are. So we try to avoid anything that would delay or distort that understanding. It seems to us that celebrating with a mixture of Santa and manger will postpone a child's clear understanding of what the real truth of God is. It's very difficult for a young child to pick through a marble cake of part-truth and part-imagination to find the crumbs of reality.
Third, we think about how confusing it must be to a straight-thinking, uncritically-minded preschooler because Santa is so much like what we're trying all year to teach our children about God. Look, for example, at the "attributes" of Santa.
He's omniscient—he sees everything you do.
He rewards you if you're good.
He's omnipresent—at least, he can be everywhere in one night.
He gives you good gifts.
He's the most famous "old man in the sky" figure.
But at the deeper level that young children haven't reached yet in their understanding, he is not like God at all.
For example, does Santa really care if we're bad or good? Think of the most awful kid you can remember. Did he or she ever not get gifts from Santa?
What about Santa's spying and then rewarding you if you're good enough? That's not the way God operates. He gave us his gift—his Son—even though we weren't good at all. "God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8). He gave his gift to us to make us good, not because we had proved ourselves good enough.
Helping our children understand God as much as they're able at whatever age they are is our primary goal. But we've also seen some other encouraging effects of not including Santa in our celebration.
First, I think children are glad to realize that their parents, who live with them all year and know all the worst things about them, still show their love at Christmas. Isn't that more significant than a funny, old, make-believe man who drops in just once a year?
Second, I think most children know their family's usual giving patterns for birthday and special events. They tend to have an instinct about their family's typical spending levels and abilities. Knowing that their Christmas gifts come from the people they love, rather than from a bottomless sack, can help diminish the "I-want-this, give-me-that" syndrome.
And finally, when children know that God's generosity is reflected by God's people, it tends to encourage a sense of responsibility about helping make Christmas good for others.
Karsten, for example, worked hard on one gift in 1975. On that Christmas morning, his daddy stepped around a large, loose-flapped cardboard box to get to his chair at the breakfast table. "Where's Karsten?" he asked, expecting to see our excited three-year-old raring to leap into the day. Sitting down, I said, "He'll be here in a minute."
I nudged the box with my toe. From inside the carton, Karsten threw back the flaps and sprang to his full three-foot stature. "And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night. An angel of the Lord appeared to them . . ." He had memorized Luke 2:8-20 as a gift for his dad. Karsten knew the real story.
In fact, a few days later, he and I were walking down the hall at the church we attended then. One of the older ladies leaned down to squeeze his pink, round cheek and asked, "What did Santa bring you?" Karsten's head jerked quickly toward me, and he whispered loudly, "Doesn't she know?"
This post was SO perfect. I'm pretty sure I've never told my little guy who Santa Clause was, but he is ALL over town right now. Today he said, "Mommy is that... Santa Clause?" How in the world did he learn that word?
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for posting this. It really affirmed the path we've chosen.
This article makes good points, but I believed in Santa growing up, and still managed to have a clear understanding between God and Santa Claus.
ReplyDeleteI loved believing in Santa!
Tracy,
ReplyDeleteI would reply that the issue is not understanding but rather affection. The celebration of a mythical character at the expense of one's enjoyment of Christ is at best dangerous. "Fun" is a good that too often replaces the best. Consider how often adults--who grew up on Santa--defend 'Santa' in shot because they internalyl think something is LOST without the make-believe. This is a real sign of where one's affections lie.
Imagine how you would feel if on your birthday or anniversary, your husband decided to celebrate some make-belive air-brushed model instead? While he may think it's "fun", love has definately been taken from you.
Over time, this early taught and later reinforced narrative robs Christ of His rightful glory. As parents and Christians, we are to make much of Christ and gaurd against anything whatsoever that dares compete with our enjoyment of Him.
What a beautifully written, eloquent response to the Western fixation on Santa Claus. Last Fall, Aiden started to express his confusion over whether Santa was in fact, God. "He is in the sky", "He wants me to be good, not bad", "He likes to give me gifts"...those are the words that came out of his mouth, even though we had already told him that Santa was pretend.
ReplyDeleteIt gave us the opportunity to help him distinguish between a "fantasy" that is just for fun, and a God-who loves unconditionally, knows our hearts, and wants the best for us. It also allowed us to explain that Mommy and Daddy, his family and friends, give him gifts because they love him, but only because God first loved us.
Honest and straightforward with our children was an easy decision, and one that we made before our first was even born. I would never try to convince them that there REALLY IS a big purple dinosaur that walks and talks (because that would be misleading and untrue), so why is ok with Santa Claus?
Beyond the attention that it takes from Jesus, I STILL don't understand why it is better for kids (or more beneficial) to believe that some big guy in a red suit is giving them gifts for "being good" instead of using the holiday to recieve and give love to those around you.
pleasure to find such a good artical! please keep update!!..................................................
ReplyDelete